Selecting a therapist to work with does not have to be a stressful decision. If you feel as though you have not made the right choice, you can always look for someone else. These are some questions to ask yourself though to try to determine which counselor to book your first appointment with.
1. Is this a person that I feel like I can trust?
It is essential that you trust your counselor. A counselor needs to be a person who you can tell everything to without fear of judgment or worry of confidentiality. Without trust, it will be hard to divulge the pertinent information to your situation.
2. Do I feel like this person might understand my family?
One of the important elements of counseling that helps people heal is feeling understood. In addition, a counselor needs to be able to understand what is going on with your family in order to determine the best therapeutic techniques to use. It is okay if they do not understand everything, as long as they are willing to listen and try to understand.
3. How do I feel about their answers to my questions?
Is the counselor answering in a way that you understand? Do you agree with what is being said? Does you talk with them help you feel confident in their abilities?
4. What is my instinct saying about this person?
Although first impressions are not always correct, if you listen to your instinct, it is hard to go wrong.
5. What do I think my child will think of this person?
If you are looking for a counselor for your child, it is important to think about how your child will react to this person. Although you want to feel confident in the counselor’s professionalism and ability to help your child and family, if your child does not connect with them, there is little the counselor can do. Counselors have experience making connections with other people, many times even when the client is resisting this initially, but if you know of certain things with your child’s personality, beliefs, or preferences that may impede this, take it into consideration. For instance, if your daughter was abused by an adult male, it may be beneficial to seek out a female counselor.